-Being Gay-
According to Bible, God created only a man and a woman. Adam and Eve :) A man is meant for a woman, and a woman is only meant for a man. A man and woman unites and they will have children to take care of and give them a living. A man is the protector, while the woman is the light of the house that shines and takes care of the family and their needs.
Today, as time goes by, a not so conventional way happens, here a THIRD SEX comes along.Nowadays, man falls in love with the same sex and the woman falls for the charm of the same sex too. This is not a funny topic to talk about. This is an issue especially for Catholic country just like ours.
On how they become LESBIANS and GAYS, IDK :) [Straight naman po kasi ako] But as my friends told me,You will just feel it on where is your calling. Nomatter how hard you fight against it, still it will stink and
the truth will really set you free. Our society as spoken in the churches and in Bibles, there's no room for the third sex. But one day I will not be shocked if I see three or four comfort rooms in public areas why? coz that's the sign that our society finally accepts them and gives them equal rights just like what we the man and woman already have. Nowadays, there were artists and known personalities that the society embraces, some look up to them, some make them inspirations to reach their goals, I think as modern age comes, the narrow minds are slowly accepting their surrounding.
What's wrong with beng gay, as long as they are true to themselves and hurts no one. The society dictates what to accept and what not to, but our hearts are the keys to happiness and our hearts know no limit but It just accept and appreciate what is given. Nagmamahal ka eh, puso ang ginagamit hindi ang isip. Some say they are pest in our society, but for me THEY ARE NOT PEST, ang salot o peste sa usuapan ito ay ang mg at aong makikitid ang pagiisip at naghuhusga sa kasarian ng isang mamayan. A person isnt less just because of his/her gender preferrence, because there are great men and woman out there who belong to the third sex group still fighting against discriminations and making their names known and they are happy :)
dictates us to do who gives a damn into it aight, what's important is we are not hurting anybody :) For all the LESBIANS and GAYS out there, just be PROUD of yourselves, coz pepole who really loves you are really proud of you :) Be happy and do what you want to do. Let's be carefree of what societyIf we want to love someone on our same classification, so what? its love you cant control it, be proud of it.fight for it. Dress the way you want to be, be as creative as you are. Perform like no other.
Nowadays, I'm proud of those who are OUT, coz they remain to be true to themselves yet they are doing everything for their families sino nga naman ang hindi magmamahal sa pamilya di ba? Pero iba talaga ang mga Bakla, Vaklusk, Beki, Beks o anuman gusto mo itawag nakakamangha lang sila kung pano nila tignan ang buhay...Madalas masaya sila and light lang ang atmosphere sa buhay..
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Wait for you...
-Dont make someone wait just because you will-
*Waiting comes from a promise. A promise that someone will be back or someone will change for the better in reciprocal, the other party needs to wait for things to happen, or for that someone to come back into his/her life. Waiting can mean FOREVER but it could also mean just for NOW.Two different periods,a real test to someone's patience and faith. Forever could be the most painful word you'll ever say coz for some there's no such thing as forever there's only one life time to make the best of everything.While now is something indefinite, how long or what is the coverage of that "now"? Will it mean how many months? or years perhaps? Waiting is really a painful thing especially for those who expects and thos who still hopes and hold on. Waiting could even mean your whole span of existence in this unfair world but the decison still belongs to that someone who will wait, on how long s/he will wait for whatever it is s/he is waiting for.
*If you are the type of person who is patient and could promise 101% to fully wait for that someone then dont make someone commit the same thingjust because you can. Simply because s/he is NOT you. You've grown up differently, you have different perceptions and goals in life. You can probably wait for him if he ask you to , BUT dont force or ask him to wait for you let him decide on that, it is his decision, it is his life, his time. :) You know what it feels how heart breaking, painful, but for some it was enjoyable but point here is that you know how it feels yet you want the othe rparty wait for you? It ws as simple as you felt the pain you almost didnt managed it yet you want him/her to experience the same thing? Would you instead let him/her experience another thing, something memorable rather than that?
Klareesse says: It will always be your choice to wait for someone or not. Dont let someone force you to wait for them, what if they never go back aight? You'll regret the time you didnt used as you were waiting for that someone. Make it your choice to wait for someone, your decision, your own free will. and if time comes you realize s/he is not worth waiting for anymore or even from the vey start then stop waiting :) Go on with your life without that person,that thing, that something. I think if the person you are waiting for is worth it, your call, your choice if you'll wait for him/her, till when you'll wait for that something :) But its good to know when to give up, when to stop waiting. Its for your own good.
How will you know if s/he is worth waiting for? Listen to your heart, understand your mind :) If your heart and mind cameon the same page then you have your decision.
*Waiting comes from a promise. A promise that someone will be back or someone will change for the better in reciprocal, the other party needs to wait for things to happen, or for that someone to come back into his/her life. Waiting can mean FOREVER but it could also mean just for NOW.Two different periods,a real test to someone's patience and faith. Forever could be the most painful word you'll ever say coz for some there's no such thing as forever there's only one life time to make the best of everything.While now is something indefinite, how long or what is the coverage of that "now"? Will it mean how many months? or years perhaps? Waiting is really a painful thing especially for those who expects and thos who still hopes and hold on. Waiting could even mean your whole span of existence in this unfair world but the decison still belongs to that someone who will wait, on how long s/he will wait for whatever it is s/he is waiting for.
*If you are the type of person who is patient and could promise 101% to fully wait for that someone then dont make someone commit the same thingjust because you can. Simply because s/he is NOT you. You've grown up differently, you have different perceptions and goals in life. You can probably wait for him if he ask you to , BUT dont force or ask him to wait for you let him decide on that, it is his decision, it is his life, his time. :) You know what it feels how heart breaking, painful, but for some it was enjoyable but point here is that you know how it feels yet you want the othe rparty wait for you? It ws as simple as you felt the pain you almost didnt managed it yet you want him/her to experience the same thing? Would you instead let him/her experience another thing, something memorable rather than that?
Klareesse says: It will always be your choice to wait for someone or not. Dont let someone force you to wait for them, what if they never go back aight? You'll regret the time you didnt used as you were waiting for that someone. Make it your choice to wait for someone, your decision, your own free will. and if time comes you realize s/he is not worth waiting for anymore or even from the vey start then stop waiting :) Go on with your life without that person,that thing, that something. I think if the person you are waiting for is worth it, your call, your choice if you'll wait for him/her, till when you'll wait for that something :) But its good to know when to give up, when to stop waiting. Its for your own good.
How will you know if s/he is worth waiting for? Listen to your heart, understand your mind :) If your heart and mind cameon the same page then you have your decision.
Patience really means something
H'wag ka maghintay, Para hindi ka mainip
Madaming tao ang katulad ko, hindi sanay na maghintay. Madali mainip. Sabi nila, ito daw ang ugali ng mg taong bata pa lang binibigay na ang gusto. Siguro nga tama ang nagsabi nun. Habang lumalaki ako, nakasanayan ko ngpinagbibigyan ako ng magulang ko gawin ang gusto talagang gawin. Hindi naman nila ako pinilit sa kahit anung bagay.Lagi naman sila naka-supporta sa akin. Nag-varsity ako wala ako narinig pinagbigyan nila ako lalo na ng Daddy kosinusundo ako noon kahit alas-10 na ng gabi at sa pagod minsan hindi na ako nakakapag-aral pero pinilit ko, pero dumatingsa panahon na mas pinili ko ang edukasyon. Madalas sumasali ako sa kung anu-ano extra- curricular activity ng school,hindi naman ako nabibigo supportado pa rin ako, camping man o vigil, Quezon man o Bicol ang puntahan ko nandyan sila palagi. Sa laruan naman, mabait ako noong bata ako, ung mas mura madalas ang pinipili ko. May mga bagay na hindi ko naman kailangan magsalita pa, kusa na lang binibigay sa akin. Ganun ako lumaki. Hindi ko na kailangan maghintay ng sobrang tagal para makuha yung gusto ko, siguro kasi nga naiintindihan ko naman kung kailan meron at kailan yung wala (: Ganun nga siguro yun dahil sa hindi ko nakasanayan kaya minsan nahihirapan ako yung naghihintay at naiinip na lang pero hindi rin naman ako ung taong sumusuko lang.
Sabi nila masakit ang maghintay, lalo na kung hindi ka sigurado kung may hinihintay ka ba talaga o wala.Totoo naman ito, nasubukan ko ng maghintay talagang masakit at nakakasubok talaga ng paniniwala at kumpiyansa mo sa tao o sa bagay na hinihintay mo na dumating sa buhay mo. Parang naghihintay ka na ikaw mismo makatapos ng kursong gusto mo sipag tyaga talaga ang kailangan. Kahit nga sa simpleng pagpapakulo ng tubig eh, kailangan mo maghintay maginit yung tubig mo gawin yung kape, sa una napapaso ka sa pagsalin sa tunig sa baso mo o hindi kaya akala mo mainit na yung tubig kaya pinatay mo na ung apoy pero hindi pa pala sapat yung init para sayo magtitiis ka na lang o maghihintay ka muli kumulo ang tubig. Ganun nga marahil ang buhay, lagi ka maghihintay sa mga bagay bagay na mangyayari.Minsan sa sobrang inip sumusuko na lang tayo at nagpapatuloy sa buhay o tinatapos na ang buhay at nawawalan ng pag-asa. Minsan naman sa sobrang inip may mga bagay tayo nagagawa na maaari natin pagsisihan sa huli.
Sa paghihintay lagi ka may inaasam. May hinihintay ka panahon na dumating at habang papalapit ito mas nasasabik ka, pero minsan kailangan natin tanggapin na kahit anong tagal natin sa paghihintay minsan hindi talaga dumadating sa panahon ang ating inaasahan.
May mga taong umaalis sa ating buhay, nangngako at nagiiwan ng pag-asang babalik sila, pero nasa kanila yun kung tutuparin nila yung sinabi nilang babalik sila at nasa sayo rin ang decision kung hanggang kailan ka aasa at maghihintay. Kung ikaw naman ay naniniwalang babalik sya sa panahong tama na ang lahat, wag ka maghintay.
Huwag mo sya antayin para hindi ka mainip. Minsan kasi sa sobra natin paghihintay sa tao na bumalik nakakalimutan na natin mamuhay para sa sarili natin, para sa mga taong nasa tabi pa rin natin hanggang sa ngayon. Binubuo na natin ang mundo natin sa pagbabalik ng tao o mga tao na iyon. Lagi ka na lang may inaasa minsan nawawalan ka na ng pag-asa sa sobrang inip na dadating pa sya. Kaya h'wag ka na lang maghintay at umasa na babalik sya, pano kung buong buhay mo umasa ka na babalik pa sya pero pinili nyang huwag na lang magbalik? Edi sa huli ikaw ang talo. Kasi umasa ka, naghintay ka..baka malaman mo na lang ang lahat kapag huli na ang lahat. Doon mo sasabihin sayang ang panahon ang ginugol mo sa paghihintay sa isang taong hindi na pala babalik. Sa huli ikaw rin ang nasaktan.
Mas makakabuti na magpatuloy ka sa buhay na walang iniintindi. Pagpatuloy mo ang buhay mo. Sabi nga mamuhay ka para sa sarili mo sa kasalukuyan hindi sa nakaraan at hindi sa hinharap kungdi sa kasalukuyan.Kung dumating man ang panahon kung sakali man piliin nung taong hinihintay mo na bumalik, mapalad ka. Ipagpatuloy mo ang buhay mo. Hindi naman tumigil ang pagdaloy ng buhay eh. Habang hindi ka naghihintay, hindi ka na-asa hindi ka maiinip nagagawa at nagawa mo ang gusto mo gawin ng walang pumipigil sayo kaya kanyang sa pagbabalik nya buong galak ka sasalubong sa kanya (:
*** Naniniwala ako sa sinabi ng Daddy ko noon, "Love, walang tama o mali decision. Ano man ang piliin mo panindigan mo, harapin mo. Ang meron lang ay ang mas makakabuti sayo at mabuti para sayo. Ngayon nasa sayo kung ano ang pipiliin mo.***
Growing Up
IT'S BETTER FOR TWO PEOPLE TO BREAK UP SO THEY CAN GROW UP
IT TAKES GROWN UPS TO MAKE RELATIONSHIP WORK (:
-From the movie, "One More Chance"
*In every serious relationship,both parties usually envisioned themselves spending the rest of their lives with the one they are with. They have dreamed and even plan their futures together. From the businesses they'll have, their family in the future, the children and everything. There are lots of happy times especially during the start of the relationship, it was as if they ask it to last forever and hope they could stop the time. The couple would always want to be together most of the time. But as time goes by, as they get the chance to know each other further complications challenge their relationship and partnership. Fights and misunderstanding will try to burn the bridge that connects and unites the couple together. Issues will try to get the best of their emotions until one gives in. But after every fights, misunderstandings the couple find a way to work things out as both of them wishes to stay strong and be together still.
*In every relationship, fights,differences and misunderstandings are part of the cycle. Relationships are incomplete without the test of the fights and misunderstanding. But sometimes, too much fight and misunderstadning leads to something negative or positive its how you look at it. Both parties or either of them decided to end the relationship while the other just accept and respect the decision of the other half. Break ups come along and break the hearts of both parties. This is due to fights and misunderstanding that tests the strength of relationship and proved that it isnt strong enough to survive, break ups happen.
*Sometimes, break ups just give space to the couple to think and breathe as individuals. In this process, they find their individualities, their strengths, short comings, regrets and give them time to really think what they want to happen. Being together in a relationship should give you the opportunity to g row as an individual and as part of a team you two compliment each other, but if this is not where your relationship is going well I think right now you've been thinking of working things out for the two of you as you help each other or breaking each others heart and proceed with life without the relationship, commmitment atatchment from the other half.
*The line above caught my attention in the film "One More Chance" starring Bea Alonzo and John Lloyd Cruz.Well, the first time I saw the film It was indeed a heart warming story and it will surely bring you to tears especially when you had your heart broken or you relate yourself to the film.It totally makes sense to me, when I saw myself in that movie, my mom even relate me with the character of Basha, and some of my friends tells me that somehow they see me in that movie. With what I've been through, I guess that's how life goes. ( To all the people who knew me, knew my story I know you understand my pain, my heart ache and my thoughts on this )
* Going back to the line, I agree with such line. In a partnership you should learn to trust respect understand the movements, thoughts of your partner, his/her everything. And as partners you should help each other grow in the aspects of life may it be spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically and more. Maturing isnt done in fast phase, as time goes by, as things hit you, you learn more of life and mature from that. But if in your relationship you are no longer growing as individual, it was as if y ou are stock in one corner and you cant do what you really want coz something is hindering you, and you think the relationship is hindering your to grow then try to work things out but if it didnt, move forward, leave the relationship. Its not being selfish, rather it is about loving yourself more. It is a decision you made to free one another just like birds. It is giving yourselves an opportunity to grow on your on, explore things, experience life outside the relationship. Its not about choosing to hurt the other, it was more of choosing of a better way for each other's separate lives.
*As break ups happen, you free each other. Free as bird flying in the woods, in the sky looking for answers for your questions, finding the meaning of life, finding yourselves. In this sense, you can grow up. You became much sure of things you want and need in your life. You became more confident of your life and on which direction you want it to go. You become more mature on handling situations as time and challenges mold you to be a tougher one.
*If one day, in God's help brought you back together and the love is still there why not rekindle it? This time you are much mature and sure of things. You know what you want and in this case you can understand more of each other's needs and wants. Each one of y ou would be sensitive alot better to one another. Indeed, young adults, children who are not mature enough should not engage in a commitment, in a fight they dont even know totally. It takes grown up to make a LASTING RELATIONSHIP and COMMITMENT.
Klareesse says: I dont regret loving and sharing my life with that someone even if at the end we didnt managed to handle our relationship that much. That experience helped gain more, more than what I've loss.It was indeed like a fairy tale, too good to be true partnership, but with such I've learned more of life :)
IT TAKES GROWN UPS TO MAKE RELATIONSHIP WORK (:
-From the movie, "One More Chance"
*In every serious relationship,both parties usually envisioned themselves spending the rest of their lives with the one they are with. They have dreamed and even plan their futures together. From the businesses they'll have, their family in the future, the children and everything. There are lots of happy times especially during the start of the relationship, it was as if they ask it to last forever and hope they could stop the time. The couple would always want to be together most of the time. But as time goes by, as they get the chance to know each other further complications challenge their relationship and partnership. Fights and misunderstanding will try to burn the bridge that connects and unites the couple together. Issues will try to get the best of their emotions until one gives in. But after every fights, misunderstandings the couple find a way to work things out as both of them wishes to stay strong and be together still.
*In every relationship, fights,differences and misunderstandings are part of the cycle. Relationships are incomplete without the test of the fights and misunderstanding. But sometimes, too much fight and misunderstadning leads to something negative or positive its how you look at it. Both parties or either of them decided to end the relationship while the other just accept and respect the decision of the other half. Break ups come along and break the hearts of both parties. This is due to fights and misunderstanding that tests the strength of relationship and proved that it isnt strong enough to survive, break ups happen.
*Sometimes, break ups just give space to the couple to think and breathe as individuals. In this process, they find their individualities, their strengths, short comings, regrets and give them time to really think what they want to happen. Being together in a relationship should give you the opportunity to g row as an individual and as part of a team you two compliment each other, but if this is not where your relationship is going well I think right now you've been thinking of working things out for the two of you as you help each other or breaking each others heart and proceed with life without the relationship, commmitment atatchment from the other half.
*The line above caught my attention in the film "One More Chance" starring Bea Alonzo and John Lloyd Cruz.Well, the first time I saw the film It was indeed a heart warming story and it will surely bring you to tears especially when you had your heart broken or you relate yourself to the film.It totally makes sense to me, when I saw myself in that movie, my mom even relate me with the character of Basha, and some of my friends tells me that somehow they see me in that movie. With what I've been through, I guess that's how life goes. ( To all the people who knew me, knew my story I know you understand my pain, my heart ache and my thoughts on this )
* Going back to the line, I agree with such line. In a partnership you should learn to trust respect understand the movements, thoughts of your partner, his/her everything. And as partners you should help each other grow in the aspects of life may it be spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically and more. Maturing isnt done in fast phase, as time goes by, as things hit you, you learn more of life and mature from that. But if in your relationship you are no longer growing as individual, it was as if y ou are stock in one corner and you cant do what you really want coz something is hindering you, and you think the relationship is hindering your to grow then try to work things out but if it didnt, move forward, leave the relationship. Its not being selfish, rather it is about loving yourself more. It is a decision you made to free one another just like birds. It is giving yourselves an opportunity to grow on your on, explore things, experience life outside the relationship. Its not about choosing to hurt the other, it was more of choosing of a better way for each other's separate lives.
*As break ups happen, you free each other. Free as bird flying in the woods, in the sky looking for answers for your questions, finding the meaning of life, finding yourselves. In this sense, you can grow up. You became much sure of things you want and need in your life. You became more confident of your life and on which direction you want it to go. You become more mature on handling situations as time and challenges mold you to be a tougher one.
*If one day, in God's help brought you back together and the love is still there why not rekindle it? This time you are much mature and sure of things. You know what you want and in this case you can understand more of each other's needs and wants. Each one of y ou would be sensitive alot better to one another. Indeed, young adults, children who are not mature enough should not engage in a commitment, in a fight they dont even know totally. It takes grown up to make a LASTING RELATIONSHIP and COMMITMENT.
Klareesse says: I dont regret loving and sharing my life with that someone even if at the end we didnt managed to handle our relationship that much. That experience helped gain more, more than what I've loss.It was indeed like a fairy tale, too good to be true partnership, but with such I've learned more of life :)
Love on Age Gap
What is right? What is wrong? That's two of the mysterious questions in LOVE. When it is right? When it is wrong? Young lovers will ask, who should tell which is right? and which is wrong? Love is something shallow yet deep topic to talk about. Mababaw kasi lahat naman na-iinlove. Lahat may perception sa love, sa pagibig. Ang iba may masayang experience dito, ang iba may hindi masyadong magandang karanasan. Mababaw kasi kahit kailan naman hindi naman magkakasundo ang puso at isip mo sa dapat mo gawin especially when it comes about love. Deep, kasi may iba naman na ang hirap complicated to talk about :) Deep coz there were different stories, each story is unique and colorful as it could be :) Love has different faces.
Age gap, kailan mo nga naman ba masasabi na mali na nagmahal ka ng mas matanda sayo? Masama ba na nagmahal ka na ng parang tatay o nanay mo na? Usually when you know someone who fall for someone who is older than her or him who fits like his or her father already people think of that person is a gold digger, or just want something from the partner. Masama ba na nagmahal ka ng mas bata sayo? Na parang kapatid mo?People will think that you are only taking advantage of your partner. Should people judge you if you happen to be widow and find someone who is at the age of your children? Is it wrong when the heart decides to fall in love? Should someone blame you on it? or does someone has the right to judge your personality for it? Eh bakit sabi nila, pag nagmahal ka walang "MAS" equal ang lahat. Pero bakit ang mga tao judgemental masyado. Sabi nga nila, age is just a number.
Honestly, I witness so many May-December love affairs and I see them work against everyone around them who are not in favor of their relationship. I am also one of those poeple whose mind were narrow and that is because I use my mind and I dont listen to my heart. I salute those people who push through despite what people thinks about it, they simply prove those people wrong. It will never be wrong as long as you love but one reminder i wish you will keep is still use your mind to weigh things out :) Some it works especially for those couples who are determined to make it through and spent forever with each other. Relationships are hard work and as I always say it takes two mature people who talks and listen to each other to make it work. For some it doesnt why? because there were so many factors to consider 1.) INTEREST. You are coming from different generations, you want different things, you live with different things. 2.) FRIENDS. You have different age of friends in that one you will awkward whenever you are with each other's gropd of peers 3.) MATURITY LEVEL. Coming from different generation of life, one has more experience more than the other that's where couples having the may-december love affair have complications and differences comes along.
But for me, every relationship has its own downs and ups may it be with the same age, older partner or younger partner or whatever it is all about the two of you :) you have to WORK IT OUT TOGETHER even if its hard to understand each other for quite some time :)
Age gap, kailan mo nga naman ba masasabi na mali na nagmahal ka ng mas matanda sayo? Masama ba na nagmahal ka na ng parang tatay o nanay mo na? Usually when you know someone who fall for someone who is older than her or him who fits like his or her father already people think of that person is a gold digger, or just want something from the partner. Masama ba na nagmahal ka ng mas bata sayo? Na parang kapatid mo?People will think that you are only taking advantage of your partner. Should people judge you if you happen to be widow and find someone who is at the age of your children? Is it wrong when the heart decides to fall in love? Should someone blame you on it? or does someone has the right to judge your personality for it? Eh bakit sabi nila, pag nagmahal ka walang "MAS" equal ang lahat. Pero bakit ang mga tao judgemental masyado. Sabi nga nila, age is just a number.
Honestly, I witness so many May-December love affairs and I see them work against everyone around them who are not in favor of their relationship. I am also one of those poeple whose mind were narrow and that is because I use my mind and I dont listen to my heart. I salute those people who push through despite what people thinks about it, they simply prove those people wrong. It will never be wrong as long as you love but one reminder i wish you will keep is still use your mind to weigh things out :) Some it works especially for those couples who are determined to make it through and spent forever with each other. Relationships are hard work and as I always say it takes two mature people who talks and listen to each other to make it work. For some it doesnt why? because there were so many factors to consider 1.) INTEREST. You are coming from different generations, you want different things, you live with different things. 2.) FRIENDS. You have different age of friends in that one you will awkward whenever you are with each other's gropd of peers 3.) MATURITY LEVEL. Coming from different generation of life, one has more experience more than the other that's where couples having the may-december love affair have complications and differences comes along.
But for me, every relationship has its own downs and ups may it be with the same age, older partner or younger partner or whatever it is all about the two of you :) you have to WORK IT OUT TOGETHER even if its hard to understand each other for quite some time :)
Love caught in the PAST
This I only have to say:
Past is past as they say. We cant do naything about it, but what past can do on us is to have the results of our past in ourpresent or in oour furture. Our past will simply bugs us in one way or another. Our past experiences will give us set backs,streed you out, hang ups and have the bitterness within us. Our future or current decisions and actions were the results of our past may it be good or bad ones. Some will not do the same past all over again especially their mistakes.
In love, especially someone ever had a bad experience on it like they were CHEATED, PLAYED AROUND, FOOLED, LEFT ALL ALONE AFTER GETTING SOMETHING, USED and other reasons usually end up being so depressed and just dont believe in love anymore. Some just dont love that much worst some just forget on how to love ending doing the same thing that there past have done on them just to be even. For some who were depressed, they end their lives, some ruin their life and forget on how to live a life.
For me, if the past love affair matters on your current relationship? Well, I think YES. Yes for awhile just for each one of you to understand what you went through and what to expect. For me it was a sign of being open and being ready to have another commitment. According to a book Ive read, "It takes courage to talk about the past especially the not so good details of it. And talking about it makes it easier for the individual to feel liberated from the stress" It matters because your pasts make you or even break you in one way or another. It was good to share your experiences with one another. But it will only work if the both of you are willing to listen and hear each other out :)
It takes two to tango, and it takes two mature people to make the relationship work and last. That's why being mature to handle the relationship is about acceptimg each other's past relationships and past experiences and It will only come through if you talk about it once in awhile (Not all the time, maybe once or twice). Remember be open minded about it, coz after your past only serve a purpose and that is for you to learn from it and not to repeat it again. You'll talk about this not to make one JEALOUS or feel INSECURE about it. Dont make your past relationship your STANDARD, which is the common sickness of many...they keep on comparing the past with the current one which is WRONG...You've moved on na aight?
You can talk about the past to SHARE experiences, learnings, thoughts not to COMPARE.
Past is past as they say. We cant do naything about it, but what past can do on us is to have the results of our past in ourpresent or in oour furture. Our past will simply bugs us in one way or another. Our past experiences will give us set backs,streed you out, hang ups and have the bitterness within us. Our future or current decisions and actions were the results of our past may it be good or bad ones. Some will not do the same past all over again especially their mistakes.
In love, especially someone ever had a bad experience on it like they were CHEATED, PLAYED AROUND, FOOLED, LEFT ALL ALONE AFTER GETTING SOMETHING, USED and other reasons usually end up being so depressed and just dont believe in love anymore. Some just dont love that much worst some just forget on how to love ending doing the same thing that there past have done on them just to be even. For some who were depressed, they end their lives, some ruin their life and forget on how to live a life.
For me, if the past love affair matters on your current relationship? Well, I think YES. Yes for awhile just for each one of you to understand what you went through and what to expect. For me it was a sign of being open and being ready to have another commitment. According to a book Ive read, "It takes courage to talk about the past especially the not so good details of it. And talking about it makes it easier for the individual to feel liberated from the stress" It matters because your pasts make you or even break you in one way or another. It was good to share your experiences with one another. But it will only work if the both of you are willing to listen and hear each other out :)
It takes two to tango, and it takes two mature people to make the relationship work and last. That's why being mature to handle the relationship is about acceptimg each other's past relationships and past experiences and It will only come through if you talk about it once in awhile (Not all the time, maybe once or twice). Remember be open minded about it, coz after your past only serve a purpose and that is for you to learn from it and not to repeat it again. You'll talk about this not to make one JEALOUS or feel INSECURE about it. Dont make your past relationship your STANDARD, which is the common sickness of many...they keep on comparing the past with the current one which is WRONG...You've moved on na aight?
You can talk about the past to SHARE experiences, learnings, thoughts not to COMPARE.
This is my opinion, and I am entitled to it. If you are against my thoughts, well you are entitled on your own opinion and judgement :)
Compromise
"Compromise doesnt mean that you lose and someone wins. It's just that you value the relationship more than the ego"
Relationships are tested by so many challenges. Surely every relationship that exists may it be a father-daughter mother-son, sister-sister, friend-friend, bf-gf, husband-wife or whatever it is, every relationship have once had the rough ride of the relationship. There were ups and downs that shaken the foundation of the relationship but at the end of the day,thecommitment of both parties to fix everything, the willingness and understanding each other is what makes relationships work especially if both sides want it.
Sometimes due to differences, relationships reaches a point were in they fight, they fight for what they think is right for them, so the endless talks, dirty words were said even if the people saying such doesnt really mean it, It was just an outburst of what they are feeling. People especially females who are known for their emotional side while the gentlemen here were so rational that really bugs the female society it was as if they dont care about what the other party
is feeling.
Sometimes both parties wants to dominate the other. There is an endless cycle of us as being inate to all humans, we alwas want to be superior to the other. People always compete. compete within their partners or their self. As this characteristics goes on, we now witness the intervention of PRIDE/EGO in the scene. Pride or ego which is define in the dictionaries as the feeling of superiority above the others. This ego hinders us to recognize what we really feel deep inside especially during times that we are caught on a fight with our partner.
In a relationship, as they say you are partners, you are each other's breath of fresh air, you are each other's other half and in a relationship it takes two to tango. Both of you should recognized the rhtyhm, the tempo of the song to mix it up and make it appropriate for the dance. It is a partnership. You make each other look good. So whenever fights challenges your team spirit, dont let your egocontrol you and get the best of you.
Compromise is not about hearing yourself alone in the situation instead it is a matter of listening on what the both of you have to say. As individuals, always take considerations how your partner thinks, what s/he thinks and his/her needs. You need to hear each other out and settle things. You have to meet in the middle. Always think that there is no superior and subordinate, instead you are equal. Try and do find the things that could make you solve the problem or issues without stepping to each other instead have the agreement.
In every fight we do encounter, always think of what you could loose and could gain from the situation. Always think of whatyou can still keep. Think of this, you may have won the issue but you lose a friend, can you take that? Be brave enough to admit that you are wrong, accept what's the reality rather than living in your fantasy land :) Ego will be worthless if you dont have friends, family around you :) Always keep that relationship, intact :)
"Kapag may nakaaway ka o kasamaan ng loob, hindi dahil ikaw yung bumaba, humingi ng tawad at umintindi ikaw na ang talo. pero mas pinakita mo na handa ka kalimutan ang pride mo para lang sa pagmamahal mo sa taong nakaaway o nakasamaan mo ng loob. Minsan
tumatahimik ka na lang para hindi na mas lumala ang sitwasyon may panahon para sa lahat"
"Kung kaya magsakripisyo, magsakripisyo. Hindi man makita ng iba, alam mo sa sarili mo umintindi, nagmahal at tinanggap mo ang nangyari"
Sometimes due to differences, relationships reaches a point were in they fight, they fight for what they think is right for them, so the endless talks, dirty words were said even if the people saying such doesnt really mean it, It was just an outburst of what they are feeling. People especially females who are known for their emotional side while the gentlemen here were so rational that really bugs the female society it was as if they dont care about what the other party
is feeling.
Sometimes both parties wants to dominate the other. There is an endless cycle of us as being inate to all humans, we alwas want to be superior to the other. People always compete. compete within their partners or their self. As this characteristics goes on, we now witness the intervention of PRIDE/EGO in the scene. Pride or ego which is define in the dictionaries as the feeling of superiority above the others. This ego hinders us to recognize what we really feel deep inside especially during times that we are caught on a fight with our partner.
In a relationship, as they say you are partners, you are each other's breath of fresh air, you are each other's other half and in a relationship it takes two to tango. Both of you should recognized the rhtyhm, the tempo of the song to mix it up and make it appropriate for the dance. It is a partnership. You make each other look good. So whenever fights challenges your team spirit, dont let your egocontrol you and get the best of you.
Compromise is not about hearing yourself alone in the situation instead it is a matter of listening on what the both of you have to say. As individuals, always take considerations how your partner thinks, what s/he thinks and his/her needs. You need to hear each other out and settle things. You have to meet in the middle. Always think that there is no superior and subordinate, instead you are equal. Try and do find the things that could make you solve the problem or issues without stepping to each other instead have the agreement.
In every fight we do encounter, always think of what you could loose and could gain from the situation. Always think of whatyou can still keep. Think of this, you may have won the issue but you lose a friend, can you take that? Be brave enough to admit that you are wrong, accept what's the reality rather than living in your fantasy land :) Ego will be worthless if you dont have friends, family around you :) Always keep that relationship, intact :)
"Kapag may nakaaway ka o kasamaan ng loob, hindi dahil ikaw yung bumaba, humingi ng tawad at umintindi ikaw na ang talo. pero mas pinakita mo na handa ka kalimutan ang pride mo para lang sa pagmamahal mo sa taong nakaaway o nakasamaan mo ng loob. Minsan
tumatahimik ka na lang para hindi na mas lumala ang sitwasyon may panahon para sa lahat"
"Kung kaya magsakripisyo, magsakripisyo. Hindi man makita ng iba, alam mo sa sarili mo umintindi, nagmahal at tinanggap mo ang nangyari"
Love in the middle of the Status Syndrome
Teleserye and Movies are best reflections of our own story,but there isnt a totally the same story in the TV or in cinemas like yours, agree?In teleseryes and movies we see the usual and classical story of the rich meets the peasant.Through the years it was highly witness by so many generations.The family of the rich is against the peasant and they will always do everythng to take the attention of the rich away from the peasant.The classical sampalan, palayas, pagpapahirap at madami pa iba are the favorite story lines of people especially the Filipinos. The langit at lupa love affair and till the end they will fight for their love :) This is true for some. In real life it was worst than what is how in the TV and movies.
I've caught this line from a Koreanovela dubbed by Filipino in a local channel " Iisa lang ang mundo, Kung ayaw mo sa mundo nya at nahihirapan ka, dalhin mo sya sa mundo mo" Remember? Hmm. Its from the Korean adaptation of Taiwanese Meteor Garden entitled Boys Over FLowersor commonly known as B.O.F.This line has a point. The point is, why bother stressing yourself about the status of your partner.he richness or the things one has doesnt speak for what his heart is beating for. We fall for someone who is more about the attractive side then it goes deeper as we know the person,the character of the individual really makes us fall for them :) Unless, you are nothing but a gold digger and you only use your mind not your heart.
Just to take advantage of someone's weakness which is love.
There were times that peasant or the not so rich person in the relationship feels awkward. The not so rich part of the relationship doesnt have all thebranded goods, quality and branded clothes, bags, shoes or accessories. S/He may not have gone to fine dining restaurants, not used to semi-fine dinning food places. s/He is only used to fast foods, street foods or t he usual for the masses.Its awkward that as if every move you make, every piece of cloth in your body is being judged Its as if you are placed in a box that you cant even breathe, :) For the reason that you love that someoneyou take every single word and every single look you get its as if you are being judged, discriminated And get through it :) But at the end of the time you still feel awkard and just get used to it..
Pero sabi nga, if you dont feel comfortable with it,bring him/her into your worldshow the simplicity of y our life that just happen to enjoy everything..Be proud of where you came from, let him/her experience the things you usually domake him/her have a taste of y our life :)
Make the two world meet in the middle :)
Be happy.
I've caught this line from a Koreanovela dubbed by Filipino in a local channel " Iisa lang ang mundo, Kung ayaw mo sa mundo nya at nahihirapan ka, dalhin mo sya sa mundo mo" Remember? Hmm. Its from the Korean adaptation of Taiwanese Meteor Garden entitled Boys Over FLowersor commonly known as B.O.F.This line has a point. The point is, why bother stressing yourself about the status of your partner.he richness or the things one has doesnt speak for what his heart is beating for. We fall for someone who is more about the attractive side then it goes deeper as we know the person,the character of the individual really makes us fall for them :) Unless, you are nothing but a gold digger and you only use your mind not your heart.
Just to take advantage of someone's weakness which is love.
There were times that peasant or the not so rich person in the relationship feels awkward. The not so rich part of the relationship doesnt have all thebranded goods, quality and branded clothes, bags, shoes or accessories. S/He may not have gone to fine dining restaurants, not used to semi-fine dinning food places. s/He is only used to fast foods, street foods or t he usual for the masses.Its awkward that as if every move you make, every piece of cloth in your body is being judged Its as if you are placed in a box that you cant even breathe, :) For the reason that you love that someoneyou take every single word and every single look you get its as if you are being judged, discriminated And get through it :) But at the end of the time you still feel awkard and just get used to it..
Pero sabi nga, if you dont feel comfortable with it,bring him/her into your worldshow the simplicity of y our life that just happen to enjoy everything..Be proud of where you came from, let him/her experience the things you usually domake him/her have a taste of y our life :)
Make the two world meet in the middle :)
Be happy.
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